Monday, February 14, 2011

Apparently Candy and I Both Have A Crappy Exterior

All morning long I had been forgetting that it was Valentine's Day. If it wasn't for the fact that one of my close friends and my step dad both have Birthday's today, the holiday would be completely lost on me.

True story. And he doesn't talk back.

Truthfully, I've never been a fan of this holiday and it's not just because I'm single. I know many single people out there hate it because they have to watch couples everywhere shitting their pants with hearts and rainbows out of happiness. And I know many people out there in relationships hate this holiday because they are forced to buy some cliche gift for their special someone. I'm not really sure why I'm not a fan but I do know that it started with my ex and how he ruined this holiday for me.

It was my Jr year of high school and I was so head over heels for my boyfriend. We had broken up for a week but then got back together a few weeks during the holiday season. We went on a  weekend trip to San Fransico with his grandparents and spent the entire time consumed with the bliss of teenage infatuation. We ditched his family and wandered around the city basking in the beautiful holiday glow of Christmas time and under the twinkling festive lights told each other "I Love You" for the first time. Two months later things were completely different and the day before Valentine's Day he broke my heart. After a breakup phone call outside of school where he told me "this isn't going to work" I got home from Cheerleading practice to find a red envelope on my kitchen table with my name written in his tiny scribble. With shaky hands, I opened the envelope to a card that said "Good friends are like Valentine's Day" on the outside and "It's what's inside that makes them special" on the inside. Tears streamed down my face as I threw the card across my living room and went into my bedroom slamming the door. I didn't even notice he wrote "I hope we can still be friends" underneath the hurtful words that the card provided, but I didn't need to. The generic card said it all.

I'm not telling you this story to make you depressed on Valentine's Day or to feel bad for me (although you can if you want, it was pretty shitty). I'm telling you it because now I look back on that story and as much as it makes me ache for my  17 year old self, it also makes me laugh because what a dick move that was. Him and I still talk from time to time and we even got back together for a little bit when we were in our early 20's. But every year on Valentine's Day, I send him a little text or email that says...

"Good Friends are like Valentine's day candy."

Just like on my Birthday, he sends me one that says "Happy Birthday n shit".

Since that Valentine's Day, I've been a little bit more cynical towards this holiday but I don't think my dislike for today has anything to do with that anymore. I think it just has to do with the fact that if you love people, you shouldn't have a designated Hallmark holiday to tell them so. But Demanda also reminded me that this holiday is about friendship (I think she was just trying to get in my pants.) Even though I hate this holiday, I'm still going to take this chance to let you know we love all of you so much. You brighten our lives and you're all so positive, supportive and uplifting. Thank you to all of our friends and followers for being amazing. Hope you have a Borderline Phenomenal Valentine's Day and if we can leave you with any advice, this would be it.


norcaltwitard said...

I <3 u sweetie!! I hope u realuze u r beautiful inside & out, cuz u really & trully r. :)

P.S. Y does demanda want to get in ur pants? Do u keep a laundry basket in there? Lol

Jaymes805 said...

Haha thanks babe! I'll have to update this blog post when I get home because I just realized I have the card at home still lol. And PS- I last time I saw him, the only thing I could think was "I WON THE BREAKUP!!!" haha.

Jaymes805 said...

Oh and yes, I keep my laundry basket in my pants. Only to lure Demanda.

TheonlyMrs(Kassie)Cullen said...

Awww... I'm glad you won the break up, that guy sounds like a tool.

PS: If you check our post at Twilight Junkies Anonymous there is a special Valentine in there for you :)

Living with Edward said...

Just yesterday I was talking with hubby about how I dislike valentines day for the same reason. You should be loving and considerate everyday and celebrate days that are important to you, like anniversaries and stuff like that. What is so special about feb. 14th? I think it's really stupid and a waste of money. I don't even think it's important enough to warran capitalizing valentines day. The words aren't even special enough.

Ps. Love you guys too! So much.

AllTwiedUp said...

I agree with you guys, Valentine's day is just another Hallmark Holiday. While I do love chocolate and flowers, I don't need a date designated to give/receive them. Everybody kept asking what the hubs and I were going to do and all I could do was shrug. We went to dinner, no biggie, nothing out of the ordinary.

Sorry to hear about the douche of douchey-ness. Jaymes805 FTMFW!! Love you ladies.

Mrs. P said...

Dear Jaymes,
Good blog comments are like Valentines Day Candy. It's what's in the inside that counts.
Hope we can still be friends.
Mrs. P

Smitten said...

His loss. And little does he know we are all making fun of him now. Bwahaha. Loser.

I'm not really into v'day at all. It's too commercial. Not that I'm opposed to a sweet romantic gift or date, but that kind of shit should be spontaneous.

And you ARE beautiful, inside and out. I know this, and yet I've never even met you; hopefully that tells you just how beautiful you are!

RobzSinger said...

Why isn't there a national holiday for sour cream? Now, that I would celebrate. ;)

Valentine's Day is lame. The end.

Dangrdafne said...

Do any of you celebrate Christmas?

My funny to add: "Good Friends are like Valentine's day candy." in my best Forrest Gump voice "You never know what you're gonna get."

miss tejota said...

I don't see the point of the day, but agree that Valentine's Day is also about friendship and even though we should let the folks that we care about know we care about them on the regular I don't mind anyone who wants to shower me with goodies on a particular day.

Chloe Cougar said...

Hmmm, I'm feeling all sorts of stuff right now (and yes, I know I'm late!).

Firstly, I feel really bad about the fact that this guy totally ruined the whole V-Day experience for you. It's time to move on, babe. That was a one-off experience!

Secondly, I TOTALLY agree with the whole Hallmark Holiday comment. e should all rise above it!

*dashes off to give hubs a BJ - forgot about that on Monday*

CC x

*Jelena* said...

I share your sentiment about Valentine's Day - and no one had ruined it for me. I just think it's an invented holiday that totally sucks. Judging how much someone loves you by what kind of gift they give you is totally shitty behaviour. I'm like you - I think love should be celebrated every day.

Once, my husband asked me if I would be angry if he didn't get me anything for V Day, and I answered that I'd be very angry if he did. :D

Speaking of love, did I ever tell you that I loves your blog, and your borderline phenomenal self is slowly, but surely, creeping into my heart? Yeah, I totally feel you dude, even from across the globe. :D

Jaymes805 said...

Haha thanks loves. He's actually a pretty cool guy.. hilarious actually. I'm definitely over it but now I just find it funny. :)

Hope everyone had a magical Valentine's day hehe.